being SINGLEYouare freer if you have no one to love you. Truly, it is like that.Anything has a price. Even if a person loves you, you must takeextra care of him or her, so that he is happy; because if he isnot happy, you are not happy. But if a person hates you, pooh...nice, good-bye. Nothing for you to do, nothing for you to worryabout. It's not my fault if you hate me. That's good.
..... Wedon't wish people to hate us; but actually, the kind of love thatwe can have in this world is almost bondage. Even the good relationshipsare only bondage; because in thinking of them, we forget to seteach others free. We demand from each other attention, love inreturn and all these kinds of things. Rarely the love betweena couple flows freely without attachment, without demand, withoutcommand, without really any condition and without effort.
..... Mostlyyou must make an effort in order to keep it, and any effort takestime and energy. Any person who you love around you, you musttake time and attention, even if you don't want to. You just haveto pay attention and we are diverted from the one-pointed concentrationinside. Not many people can concentrate inside and outside atthe same time. Even if he or she can, there must be time and it'stime consuming. While you pay attention to these things, you cannotpay attention to that thing. Even if you can remember both thingsat the same time, you can only do one thing at a time. You cannotpay attention to this one and then also at the same time fullypay attention to the other things.
..... So,actually we are perfect alone. We know what we have to do andwhat time to do what. But, unluckily, this world is made of manybeings, including human beings; and we have to interact with themall the time if we have to do something, or else just go to theHimalayas, or some other mountain, be alone, do things yourself,that is also good. Maybe this sounds very useless, but it is good.
